That little slump post I wrote on Thursday has been plaguing my mind. A huge part of me really, really, really wishes I hadn’t pressed the publish button. It was a whinge. A down in the dumps whinge. Nothing stuff in the grand old scheme of life. I’m fine now. Actually, by the end of that day I was feeling much better.
So I wrote that post while I was feeling in a slump but then my mood and attitude got better and I moved on. Should I have posted when I was feeling like that?
Most of me thinks no. I don’ t want to come across as a whinger and a hard done by kind of person. My life is so filled with wonderfulness and blessings and I regard the negatives to be blessings as well, things that teach me and show me and mould me. And then, when I think about all of those lovely, happy, positive blogs out there that only radiate rainbows and sunshine I shudder at my slump style posts.
But, there’s a tiny part of me that feels like I need to paint a real picture of who I am and what I’m feeling on this blog. My life and my thoughts aren’t always rainbows and sunshine. My life is not all pretty nesty images and decorators heaven. I am a whinger and a venter but then I get over it and realise on a deeper level the importance of going through everything I do and that my miseries are nothing compared to other people’s and that I am really and truly blessed.
Do I want rainbows and sunshine? Yes, but not at the cost of being seen as a fraud. Life isn’t rainbows and sunshine all of the time. Not for me, at least. I’m always left with a little “I’m crap” feeling after I’ve spent too much time reading rainbows and sunshine posts. I like to know people are real and more like me. Though too much misery and whinging is, of course, repulsive too. Balance – ugh, so hard to find.
And there are posts of mine, that when I look back on, I think about the stresses of that particular morning or the bad parenting I did out of the frustration of not being ready on time that didn’t even get a look in. Yet the images and the post come out looking all rainbows and sunshine and fraudy in some way.
So that’s that. Post unfinished, it seems. I’m not sure where I stand with the what to share and what not to share. I guess it’s all about balance, for me. I could do with a lot less whinging but then I wouldn’t be real. And my own rainbowy posts could do with a bit more realness. See, I’m still so unsure.
Over to you – what sort of posts do you enjoy reading the most? Are you a rainbows and sunshine kind of reader or are you more of a realist?
Kim x
11 comments:
I know exactly how you feel. I struggle with posting about personal feelings and knowing how much to share and what not to. I tend to be quite cautious. Your feelings are all so real and if you want to post about them that's fine with me. I like to read the good and the bad. Afterall this is real life we are in and everything is not jim dandy every moment of the time. For me, some things I like to keep personal, because it feels strange putting it out there. Have a great sunday Kim and keep positive. Leahxx
I try to lay it out as it is. And so a number of my blog posts over the years have been whingey/complainy. Coz that's how life is sometimes. Or at least my attitude to circumstances.
I like reading both sides of the coin... I like to know that others find things hard or struggle or get bored. Of course I LOVE the rainbows, sunshine and happiness. But it's nice to have a balanced view - to see that a blogger is honest about how things are going.
Of course, if someone's blog was called "Happiest Blog Ever" I might be a bit disappointed if there were lots of sad, whingey, complaining posts ;)
But it can be a hard balance (and probably appeals to different parts of the readership anyway) to not become a boring complainer either! Especially if you are in a crappy place.
Unfinished thoughts continued... :)
I a realist..... reading sunshine and fairydrops all the time makes me wonder if a person is real... but I do know other blog readers/writers who can't cope when the picture gets ugly....
that said there are whole swathes of things that I never share either online or one-to-one.....
so my mantra is - do what feel right for you, publish what you feel comfortable standing behind and let go of the worry.
Sorry about all the iTypos!!! I hope you get what I was basically trying to say: which is, write whatever comes out! x
My blog is meant to be about the positive things in life, but at the end of the, life is not all rainbows and sunshine, you are right. I think it is good to see a bit of the real you.
I know what you mean..that wanting to keep a fairly positive blog but keeping it real too. It is hard to find the balance, and I'm still working on it. Too much sunshine is just not reality is it? Sometimes a problem shared is better for the writer and reader.
I think it's far better for you to have shared whats really going. I hope things are okay. Building is sooo stressful. Just remember that you will get through it xo
I have often thought about this with my blog. I tend to post about our rainbow and sunshine moments, but that doesn't mean there aren't moments when the rainbows are no where to be seen and the sunshine isn't shining.
I find I have a hard time articulating those moments. I have often thought about writing a post to simply say although life looks great on this blog, we as a family do face moments of struggle, whining and crying...haven't done it yet, maybe it's time.
On the other hand, I really don't have a preference when reading other blogs. I read them because something has connected us and reading about the good things in their lives is awesome, but if there are a some days of struggle, that is fine too. I guess that makes them human :)
Hi Kim, I like a balance of the real I think. I had a read of your last post. It only seemed a tiny little winge to me and not at all dark and gloomy.
Cross fingers all the shed plans work out ok, these things often do.
take care
xx
J
Life in a fallen world is not perfect,I think your posts are very appealing because they are honest.There is enough phoniness out there already.Things always workout for the best.Take care.
There is more to life then just rainbows and butterflies. To get those amazing rainbows that everyone oh's and ah's at we must first have rain, and then sunshine. Before there is the beautiful butterfly there must be a little caterpillar working hard. So why then should people only show the rainbows, it real to have down days, its real to not always be on top of everything.You're human:)
Kim there is nothing wrong with keeping it real. The reality is we all have off days and if you feel like sharing then by all means do :)
x
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